
There is nothing more annoying than powerful women playing the victim card. It's a fact I'm reminded of this week as Debbie Stafford — a longtime Republican now turned Democrat — suggests that she was "battered" by her former party's leaders.
The state representative from Aurora asserts that her decision to become a Democrat had little to do with policy — and more to do with protest. "If I believe someone is being battered…I would tell them to pack their bags and get out fast. My party was trying to batter me into submission," she told a Denver Post reporter last week.

In trying to paint her party as abusive, Stafford only reveals her own impulsive weaknesses. She claims the final straw came during this year's legislative session when she says she was retaliated against for breaking with GOP leadership to support a bill that lowered the standard for construction defects lawsuits. According to Post reporter Jennifer Brown, Stafford broke down in tears as she recalled how her unpopular vote turned her into an "outcast."
While Stafford insists on wearing a victim label, we can only hope that she wouldn't instruct abuse victims to seek cover under another abusive relationship. But if we are to accept her accusations as gospel, this is exactly what she has done. Now as a Democrat, she is going to find herself and her conservative social views painfully at odds with her new party's expectations.
What an eye-opening she is going to get next January at the beginning of the 2008 legislative session, when the kisses, hugs and bouquets stop coming from her new party colleagues. Certainly, union bosses won't take kindly to her pro-school choice views. The feminist lobby isn't likely to pat her on the back for her pro-life stance.
If Stafford had logically thought through her decision, she would have fought back by demanding change within her party. If she really felt she needed to leave the GOP, she should have become an independent, rejecting partisan status altogether.
Fortunately, for Stafford's own sake, she is term-limited. Her switch will likely have little to no practical impact. She was overwhelmingly elected in a district that supported her conservative stances, including her opposition to gay marriage, stem cell research, and amnesty for illegal immigrants. Democrats now hold a 40-25 member lead in the House, and Stafford's district will likely once again elect a Republican in the 2008 election.
Lest I be accused of battering Stafford myself, let me give credit where credit is due. She has been through a lot in life. A few years ago, I joined in a standing ovation after she gave a speech detailing her experiences in an abusive marriage and her subsequent struggles to succeed — which she did — as a single mother. My admiration then strikes a strong contrast to my disappointment now.
Jessica Peck Corry is a public policy analyst with the Independence Institute in Golden, Colo.
How can she now retreat from the core ideals of her party, bowing her head in tears, so flabbergasted and so frustrated by the basic realities of our competitive political system? It sends a troubling message to women across the nation. It says we're weak and paints us not as leaders, but as followers.
As a Republican myself, I've been an outspoken critic of my party's leadership frequently over the years. When you believe in something, you've got to fight to make it better. Abandoning my core philosophy, even at a time when too many Republicans at the national level are pushing to expand the government's role in our lives every day, just isn't an option. Why would I leave a party weakened by the temptations of socialism for another faction that not only encourages government expansion, but lives and breathes such a philosophy?
Perhaps Stafford is finally home. After all, Colorado's most powerful elected female Democrat, state Senate President Joan Fitz-Gerald, has similarly pulled the victim card, bemoaning our political system as an "old boys" network. Give me a break. Girls are running the show and getting the headlines.
Let's mop up those tears and get back in the fight.
Editor’s note: Jessica Peck Corry's weekly blogs are part of a feature on The Denver Post's PoliticsWest.com site called "Diary of a Mad Voter." The group blog, published in partnership with NewWest.Net/Politics, is intended to give a glimpse into the hearts and minds of several independent-minded voters and thinkers in the Rocky Mountain West in the '08 election cycle. Check back regularly at www.politicswest.com for "Diary of a Mad Voter."
Debbie Stafford
I found Ms. Corry's, and others, comments regarding Debbie Stafford's party switch quite amusing.
I would be very interested in their comments regarding U.S. Senator Ben Nighthorse Campbell's party-switch (this time from Democrat to Republican) less then halfway through his first term. It would be facinating to learn if all these real whiners were as critical of him as they seem to be of Ms. Stafford.
By the way, I am a registered Independent, so I really don't care what party Stafford is...just how she votes.
Thank you, Jessica....
Wah. Wah wah wah. "The party doesn't represent me" is the weak cry of libertarians and independents who think of parties as clubs or churches or brands that must represent you fully and exactly to be useful. Parties are tools for leveraging values in government and are completely reflective of who shows and fights for those values within the party. Choosing a party in this way shows a complete misunderstanding of how to choose the most powerful tool for leveraging your values, and that you must USE the tool for it to work. Protest is a feel good measure for the protestee that does little in the way of effective change. Deb's behavior is the very best of victim behavior, like the Libertarians et al, and the "old boy" attitude is the whine of those who do not want to do the same work learning to use the tool as others who use it better. Thank you to you and all Republicans, not just women, who know how to stand up and fight for their values AND their party instead of whining and crying. We are the party of strength, and I'm thinking we are far better off without her. I'm a meanie and have little patience for this sort of thing - I'm grateful for your temperance and reason to cool my heels. It's so good knowing you are in my neighborhood. I'll be following your articles and hopefully learning not just facts, but insight and kindness as well. Good job.
Stafford, you give females a bad name!
While I don't necessarily think I'd stay in a Party that I had ideological or intergrity concerns about, I do agree with Ms. Corry that if Rep. Stafford truly felt she could no longer be a Republican, she should have just become an Independent. Many have done so on the National level and have found that their "power" amongst their colleagues on both side of the political aisle increased greatly, as opposed to becoming the sheep accepting into the flock only to insult the opposing Party by taking in one of their own.
I hope someday that my own children will see that you don't just go crying to the teacher when someone doesn't like what you did, how you said something, voted, etc. Wake up, Stafford, life isn't fair and sometimes your friends are going to be mean to you (just ask Senator Larry Craig about that!). The best lesson you can give to your youngest constituents is to say "They were trying to bully me to vote for something I didn't believe in. I won't be bullied into changing my beliefs, thus I will leave the Party and become an Independent." End of story.
Quit the pity party victim stance. You weaken the rest of us who are women trying to get rid of the notion that the boys need to "let us" be at the top. You've earned your seat there fair and square, so live up to the expectations of your constituents and stop feeling sorry for yourself.